If you’ve recently been arrested in California for domestic battery, making criminal threats, or other forms of domestic violence, you may be asking a question that is remarkably common among domestic violence defendants: “How did I get here?” In reality, even if you are aware you crossed a line, you may be baffled as to how or why it happened–let alone how to stop it from happening again.
Domestic violence charges are serious and can have lasting impacts on your future. However, being accused of domestic violence does not make you a bad person—it’s an opportunity to reflect, understand, and change. If you’ve found yourself in this situation, it’s crucial to understand the role that upbringing and learned behaviors might play in your actions. For many, a hidden factor perpetuates harmful patterns from one generation to the next. We often refer to this as a “family cycle of abuse.” Simply put, if you were abused as a child, you’re at higher risk of becoming an abuser to your own family. If you feel you may be caught in this cycle of abuse, the good news is that you’re not necessarily doomed to repeat the mistakes of the past. Let’s talk about this cycle and discuss some practical steps you can take to disrupt it.
Understanding the Family Cycle of Abuse